As a coach, I give advice. I ask questions. I try and push people outside their comfort zones to make progress. Most of the time, I am doing the same type of work myself. On my own or with my coach/mentors.
One of the things I have been working on this last year is taking more risks and getting outside what I find comforting. I know this allows me to grow and develop as a coach, leader and woman.
This past fall a friend reached out to me and asked if I would like to join her and two other friends on a zip-lining course. My first reaction was ‘Oh No Way!‘
Being extremely afraid of heights there was no way I would step foot on a zip-line course. I actually have a panic attack going on bridges I have never been on-it makes my passengers either afraid or they laugh at me!
Remembering my goal is to step outside my comfort zone, I told her I would think about it. Which I did. For a week. I went back and forth on doing it or not doing it. Then I got real with the questions I typically ask my clients when they are faced with a tough situation.
“What’s the worst that could happen?”– I could fall to my death.
“What’s the best thing that could happen?”– I become obsessed with zip-lining and spend all my free time on a course.
“What’s likely to happen?” – I will have a great time with my friends, make some wonderful memories and maybe want to do it again.
Ultimately, I made the choice to go with my friends. I wanted to make memories with them and wanted to prove to myself I could do this.
I almost backed out when I saw it was 14 courses, not just one. I went anyway. I had to keep reminding myself that I could do it. Face my fears and that the worst would not come true.
And what a day it was! A fun adventure, albeit a bit scary at first (I may have shed a tear just watching the video in the lobby of what we would be doing), but we had a blast. I even volunteered to go first towards the end of the day.
Here is proof I did it! Zip-lining through the forest on a cold October day in MN. What a day to remember. I pushed through my fears and accomplished something I never thought I would.
When you’re faced with a challenge or situation where you’re not sure what to do, try asking those three simple questions and see if they help.
To your growth, development and amazing potential,
Leadership Coach and Facilitator